Whatever we RESIST, persists

"Whatever we resist persists" - Carl Yung & most every recovery program literature...because it's true. 
Temporarily pushing out of our mind and heart the very thing that needs our attention feels helpful in the short term...however, it will pop up at some point packing an extra punch, unfortunately. A lot of times we rely on the survival skill of denial and minimizing (our situation, stress, pain, or sadness) to convince ourselves that the thing that REALLY needs our attention isn't-that-big-of-a-deal...or perhaps we use the famous minimization strategy for our suffering situation by saying "it's not that bad, someone else has it worse" or "my situation isn't anything like so and so's"...all ways to keep our difficult, painful, sad, distressing, or shameful situation a little further away from us so we don't lean in to the required attention, care, and support the situation really deserves...that WE really deserve (And, typically, we *learned* this response in our childhood by observing how our caregivers gave attention to or didn't give attention to the hurts, pains, disappointments, and struggles we endured)
Whatever we resist, PERSISTS. 
Whatever we resist, PERSISTS.
Whatever we resist, PERSISTS.
Why? 
Because we spend A LOT more effort, energy, and focus on RESISTING that thing versus the energy to simply turn and face the thing we've been avoiding/resisting. Now, I don't say that tritely like it will be easy to face that thing, HOWEVER, it's a part of surrender and acceptance that actually begins to feel like a little bit of relief once we decide to stop running, resisting, and avoiding...because that can be exhausting.
Once we can look that thing in the face, give language to our experience, and determine the steps to work through it...we're now in a healthy use of our energy and resources (mentally and emotionally) to reduce the impact of that thing. Remember we feel, to deal, to heal...but we can't begin to feel if we haven't yet paused to give language to the hurt, pain, sadness, insecurity, fear, or other looming emotional experience that has been waiting for our attention.
What are common situations we may resist or avoid facing simply because it feels too hard and heavy?
- A broken relationship situation (a break-up, going no contact with a loved one or friend, or a divorce)
- A job loss, unwanted career or employment transition, or the loss of a dream connected to work/career (grief is the natural, healthy way we process through any type of loss...if we avoid the grief needed to process the loss in a healthy way, we also are delaying the healing and wholeness that can be found on the otherside)
- Patterns of choosing toxic or unhealthy people or situations (whatever we resist in the way of inspecting our patterns will only prolong our suffering, deepen our wounds, and continue a cycle of pain/insecurity)
- Prolonged exposure to an unsafe, toxic, abusive, or highly stressful work, family, or community environment (our bodies switch instinctively to fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode and most of the time we aren't consciously aware of it so we don't know the depths of survival we are actually in...once we are able to leave that environment and start some healing work, and when we feel truly safe again, then can we start addressing the deep emotional experience that went largely unaddressed so we could simply survive the chaos of the situation)
- A relapse, anger outburst, or other unwanted behavior response that has created deep shame, pain, and sadness. (If we leave these wounds unattended, they will only fester and we suffer immensely...whatever we turn and face puts us back in the position of empowerment which builds confidence and a healthy sense of security)
- Moving out of an area we previously called home (the mounting overwhelm that comes from having to leave what's comfortable and familiar and then literally having to trailblaze in a new area, with new people, and all new everything...there's an emotional toll there that often can get looked over)
Do any of these circumstances evoke some emotion for you? If so, what would your life look like if you chose to put your energy into facing and dealing with the situation instead of resisting and avoiding? Have you considered the positive impact to your mental, emotional, and physical well-being if you attend to the situation versus avoid it? 
Remember, there is hope and healing is possible. You can do it with support and help. If you're looking for a local community group for support, I highly recommend Celebrate Recovery. You can find a location near you by following this link:
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There are practical solutions for overcoming any suffering you have experienced. There is hope and freedom from emotional turmoil, grief, pain, shame, and hopelessness. 
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