How honest have you been with yourself??

How honest have you been with yourself lately?? (In ALL areas)

If you're like me, you'd probably initially say, VERY! I'm very honest with myself...but upon closer inspection there are some hard truths that are difficult for most of us to face. Why is that? 

It kind of goes back to denial at the subconscious level...stay with me...denial shields us from the pain of the reality in front of us. If we don't face the truth of the reality in front of us, then maybe we don't have to make changes (which is incredibly hard), let go of a bad habit, bad relationship, or other unhealthy vice, situation, or pattern. 

Denial can serve as a protective strategy for us until it's no longer protective and mostly just helping us avoid reality, stay stuck, avoid needed changes, and possibly even avoid the grief process. That's WHY facing hard truths is difficult for us...well, one reason anyway. If we don't face hard truths we also can't make needed changes. And change is literally one of the HARDEST things for us to do. (No wonder our brains resist it so much) Think back to the most recent time you tried changing something in your life? How did it go? How long did it actually take for you to make some steps towards change? And, how long did it last?

I recently began working with a trainer AND nutritionist...to say that the needed changes have been hard is an UNDERSTATEMENT. At the risk of sounding dramatic, I've had to grieve a few things... it's made me face some unhealthy choices, areas of needed discipline and consistency, AND to also focus on the future of what could be if I stick with it. Changing our thoughts, our habits, and routines is not for the faint of heart HOWEVER it is worth it.

"All work is worthy work" I recently heard this quote from a mom of five and personal trainer.

Progress not perfection.
Progress not perfection.
Progress not perfection.

What work might you need to invest in? Anything coming to mind?

What does this have to do with our mental and emotional health? EVERYTHING. 

Let's go back to the original question:
How honest have you been with yourself lately?

Is there anything in your life that you're avoiding dealing with out of fear, sadness, shame, regret, or other difficult emotion attached?

If so, you're not alone. Being completely honest with ourselves takes courage because it means we might need to make some important, necessary changes to achieve the ultimate desires of our heart. Is it self-confidence? Is it inner peace? Is it letting go of an old role self from a growing up survival pattern? Is it letting yourself feel the emotions connected to a hurt, decision, or transition in your life that you've maybe been resisting experiencing?

I get it. Sometimes staying "comfortable" in the familiarity of our pain, discomfort or avoidance feels slightly better than the thought of entering the unknown with facing the truth, being honest with ourselves, feeling all the feelings and committing to change. 

Change can be both exciting and terrifying. It can be exhausting, hopeful, and painful. It can be so many things all at once. And that's okay. That's why it's great for our mental and emotional health. Learning to adapt, be flexible, and make healthy adjustments in our life is kind of the point of being a healthy adult. Healthy people face reality, make adjustments as needed, process their feelings, and keeping making progress...one moment at a time, one day at a time, one healthy decision at a time...

If you're ready to start or restart your therapy journey, I'm booking sessions for the end of April and early May! 
There are practical solutions for overcoming any suffering you have experienced, implementing needed changes, and getting support through it all. There is hope and freedom from emotional turmoil, grief, pain, shame, and hopelessness. 
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